Generally daughters stand by their parents. In this modern world, parents still pray for the gift of boys rather than girls. Chinese tradition is that the child should carry the surnames. Girls tend to be more filial towards her family as they place more importance on family values. Girls support their mothers morally, financially, mentally and physically even when they are married. Do boys display the same behaviour? Your guess is as good as mine.
Girls also do not enjoy the same privileges in terms of family wealth. In terms of family wealth, the boys tend to have a bigger slice of the cake. Why girls do not get equal share of the cake when they are also part of the family? Why do parents differentiate between sons and daughters?
Do parents hope that their sons will support them financially after their retirement? Parents still claim to have sacrified their life for their sons. Do their sons think wise?
Following traditional Chinese culture, daughters are not allowed to pay their respect to their ancestors at the grave simply because they no longer carry the family surname.
Gender should not be used as dividing factor and parents should give undivided love and affection to their sons and daughters. Forget about the notion of surname not being passed on to the next generation.
Food for thought.
My mum only have two daughters, and lucky for me, she never follow all the above. I had seen quite a number of daughters who ill treated their parents. I even have a relative, female, who can't wait to get rid or her parents from her house.
ReplyDeleteI share your sentiments in that there are daughters who ill treat their parents. I believe it may be due to their upbringings.
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